Soul Mates: A Different Perspective on Love--Are You Ready?

Through my interviews over the years with authors like Deepak Chopra, Barbara De Angelis, and others, my perspective of what it means to be a "soul mate" has changed dramatically. For the longest period of time, if someone was my soul mate, which I was lead to believe we all just have one, our life together would truly be bliss. We would love each other at all times, and the relationship, and if it was the real deal, would be close to effortless.

Since these early beginnings, however, my beliefs have radically changed. An example of this came over 10 years ago as I was talking to a knowledgeable counselor on this very topic, who blew my mind with her detailed explanation of a soul mate relationship she had just ended.

The man she had loved deeply was the exact opposite of anyone she could ever imagine herself with. He drank heavily; while she was a non-drinker. He smoked; and she had abhorred smoking. His religious beliefs were quite a contrast to her spiritual perspective. Yet, without a doubt, this was a soul mate in her existence.

She explained that he was amazingly filled with a depth of spirit, a powerful sense of humor and a willingness to admit wrong instantly when an error in his judgement was brought to his attention. His days were filled with humility, curiosity, and dedication to serving mankind. She went on to tell me all that she had learned from this amazing,and imperfect, being. She explained how their hours of sitting in silence had brought them closer together than any other relationship she had ever had. She learned the power of accepting someone who was quite different, yet filled with love. As she let the relationship go, she was blessed that another "soul mate" had lifted her up to a higher state of being, one filled with less judgement, more acceptance.

Right now, slow down and reflect upon the "soul mate" experiences that you may have encountered through past relationships. They were divinely given to help you rise to the next level in your life. I think one of the key lessons I'm hearing and learning is to relinquish "who" has the potential to truly influence your life, your growth, when in comes to intimate relationships.

In other words, could it be possible that EVERYONE you have ever dated or will ever date, is a soul mate? It seems to make a lot of sense, as anyone you or I have or will date, influences who we are and who we become. One person may challenge your patience, while another may help you learn how to set healthy boundaries. Someone else may be a great teacher for you sexually, yet another may be a reflection to you of your overpowering ego, or need to be right in all too many disagreements. Some may show you the need to learn to fight for love, yet another may show you how to walk away with grace. And then there is the one who mirrors your beauty in a fleeting comment. Another may help you go deeper on a spiritual path, and yet another may greatly influence how you raise kids or handle money. Love, growth, many times comes wrapped in the most unlikely of packages. Do you see a pattern here?

Everyone you engage with intimately, regardless for how long, may just be a perfectly placed soul mate. If we truly understand this, it means that every former lover was an angel of love, helping you to not only understand yourself and the world better, but to point you towards that ultimate desire that is ingrained in everyone, the search for true love. The search for Divine Union. There are no mistakes on the path of love. Think about this.

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David Essel, Master Life, Business and Spiritual Coach, Motivational Speaker, Author, Adjunct Professor and Radio/TV Host empowers people to take charge of their lives, positively affecting the lives of many through his motivational lectures, television segments, and his belief that health is not just from the neck down. How can you create an exceptional life by honoring your mind, body and soul? Visit his website at: www.davidessel.com

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